Are you ready to stop thinking about it, but don’t know how to do it? Try any of these seven empowering tips after a breakup and break free.
Stop thinking about it once and for all
Having dates at any age can be at least. Once you find someone who is interested in you, you invest emotionally and spend a lot of time thinking about them:
- What you like about him
- When I could call again
- What would be fun to do together
- What did he mean when he said that
- When you see it below
- When I would kiss you again and melt you
I could go on and on because you know exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve probably been there before.
Then all of a sudden, you break up and it’s over! He stopped calling and disappeared or you had an unresolved disagreement.
However, this pattern of circular thinking about this man continues. Like a train moving on the tracks, as if your mind has its own engine and you don’t stop to think about those same thoughts.
You’ve been thinking about it for weeks or months, and now you’re supposed to stop. Just like that?
I’ve been in your shoes and I know how hard that is. That’s why I created methods to free myself from these loops of thought. Here are my top seven tips for stopping thinking about it as soon as possible:
1. You need to WANT to stop
It’s important to get on board with the idea that it’s time to let it go and move on. You broke down and there is no hope of reconnecting, which might be best. Your desire to stop thinking about him is the first step to freeing him and freeing yourself. If you want to move on to the next phase of your life and possibly a new love, you must want to stop.
2. Your inner voice is not your true self
First you want to acknowledge that you are responsible and not your mind. This relentless inner voice is not your true and true self. Once you realize this and separate yourself from that inner voice, you have a chance to break free.
To separate yourself from your inner voice, give it a name. In coaching, this is also called gremlin, inner critic, voice of reason, and so on. Then address your inner voice by the name you choose and say any of these lines:
- Thanks for sharing
- Go now
- I’m in charge, not you
- I’m not listening to you
- You have no power over me
Any of these options will help you stop thinking about it after you break up. Or you can have yours. You can even use several of them and know that you will have to repeat them often. However, I recommend you to be kind because this is part of yourself. Kindness also counts here.
3. Participate in a hobby
Get involved with something you enjoy doing as a hobby. Do something positive that keeps you from thinking about it. This is a good time to grab your favorite hobby or if you don’t have any, try things to find one now.
You can buy a cross-stitch kit, knit a sweater, crochet for your bed, cook something delicious or learn to paint.
Maybe you play tennis, golf or pickleball. Try cycling, kayaking or hiking. Going out on the street is a great way to clear your mind. Being in nature can work wonders on your mindset.
Hobbies can be a very rewarding and productive way to spend time instead of thinking about HIM.
4. Start a new project
Do you have a big project that you have been postponing for a long time? After a break it’s a great time to dive in and do it. Clean your closets. Organize your papers. Paint this closet or closet. Make a duvet.
Completing this backward project will provide a sense of success and will occupy your mind.
5. Spend time with friends
You probably have a couple of friends who support you. Go hang out with them! Maybe you can also meet some of his friends. Go to dinner. Go out and watch your favorite chick movies. Have a drink and laugh at the old days.
Find ways to go out and enjoy it, so you get the support you need and are distracted from it.
Everyone needs to feel connected and have a sense of community. Don’t isolate yourself at this tender moment. Get the love you need from the people you can count on to be by your side.
Your friends have also broken up. They may have ideas about what will help you feel better. But even if they’re just there to listen or help you laugh, sometimes that’s all you need.
6. Meditate or do yoga
When your mind is boiling and you can’t stop thinking about it, meditation can be incredibly helpful. Try guided meditation if you have never done it before. There are a lot of options on YouTube that make it so easy.
Just get comfortable and listen, and meditation happens. If your mind wanders, return to the voice that guides you.
Yoga is also ideal for calming the mind, while also involving the whole body. When you focus on holding positions and breathing, your mind becomes still and focused.
This is a wonderful respite from the intense thought, the thought, the thought you might be doing.
7. “Let go” exercise.
It’s natural to want to hold on, especially with someone you really wanted to be with. But there comes a time when you just have to let go as a healthy part of the healing process.
The longer you hold on to a man who is not right for you or who has disappeared from your life, the harder it will be to free yourself.
Try this exercise to start the process of letting go and stop thinking about it. Keep in mind that you may need to repeat this several times in order for the turn to be created so that you can move on, which is completely normal and expected.
- Sit comfortably and close your eyes
- Take three deep breaths, exhale more than you inhale, and feel your body relax from head to toe.
- Imagine you are sitting in front of the person you are about to release
- See if there are any ropes or ropes connecting your two bodies
- Gently pull the cord of your body first, then yours, and then drop them
- Say goodbye to the person and take it seriously. Say “I’m freeing you” or “I’m free from our connection now” and see it disappear
- Watch the ground wires burn between you, changing your energy and releasing your connection.
- Imagine a gentle healing where the cords were connected to your body
- Thank you for the healing and feel good about the work you just completed
Did you stop thinking about Him?
Of course, you don’t have to use all seven methods to stop thinking about it, but try as many as you want. See what works for you.
Once you let go, be clear and ready to move on to meet a more supportive man and a better long-term partner for the love you want and deserve.
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