When it comes to being vulnerable with guys, do you always have to be honest with men?
Let me put it this way:
If an HR person asked someone applying for a job, “What are your weaknesses?” during an interview, how should it be in advance? Should I say it all?
Should I reveal, “Well, I once left a meeting with my last manager because I didn’t like being criticized”?
Revealing this would probably not help you get the job done, even if it was an honest answer.
Maybe if the person said, “Well, I used to get angry when my work was criticized, but my experience has taught me to manage my feelings and use negative feedback to do better next time,” they would have a way. best chance to be hired.
It’s not because he was less honest than the first answer, but the person didn’t just say the first thing that came to his mind.
Plus, people aren’t waiting for you NO have no problem dealing with. We all have a unique set of pendants, but we shouldn’t take them off without thinking about them as if they were defining us.
Rather, the best way to keep the other person from getting scared is to give the impression that you have your life. under controlhow imperfect as it may be.
Likewise, dating is very important feel honest – but not so much that it shows the other red flags and run in the opposite direction.
We’re all working on some personal stuff (that’s a fact for most of us), and that shouldn’t stop you from being in a relationship.
At the same time, however, it is best to keep it to yourself until both of you are comfortable enough to share these things.
Therefore, honesty should be tempered with a little tact and discretion, especially at the beginning of a relationship.
There’s no dating rule that says you have to put all the cards on the table to keep it real.
There was a recent Reddit thread that asked, “What would you do with yours? brutally honest dating profile you say? “
A bunch of people responded, with answers ranging from hilarious a surprisingly true:
- “Good alternative to pet rock.”
- “Medical college student who is stressed like [email protected]#%. Enjoy the company of cats as they do not require social effort. He probably cried and baked cookies today instead of studying. “
- “Because we’re single at this age, we’re both damaged people. Tell me where you’re broken and I’ll tell you where I’m broken.”
- “I’m still in love with my ex.”
- “Seemingly perfect, but a disaster when you arrive 2 months.”
As I’ve pointed out before, it’s important to be honest while you are (e.g., talking when something goes against your moral principles, etc.), but not when you feel like you don’t have it together.
Being a guy, I have to say that unloading all your emotional baggage is too intense.
Give your man a chance to get to know you better, and then let him cover you one layer at a time.
The connection with a boy is made in baby steps – pace yourself i do not do it get into deep discussions about how many kids you want or how your ex was a cheating loser who took you for granted.
Eventually, these things will come out, so let the relationship develop first before you get into the more serious stuff.
In the meantime, have fun with him, be a great girl to hang out with and focus on enjoying the moment.
And if you really want to connect with your boyfriend, try learning his Connection style to really find out what makes it work.
Once you have mastered this easy to learn relationship ability, you can be as honest with each other as you want, and he will still be stay around much later.
Come on in, take a look and enjoy yourself!
Yours in Perfect Passion,
– Carlos Cavallo
UPDATED ON 9/28/2021
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