What about emotionally unavailable men? Why don’t men commit?
- They are all emotionally closed guys?
- Fes all do men avoid engagement?
- Are you doomed to go out with guys who are? commitment phobic…?
The answer to these questions is no. noNO.
If you’ve spent some time talking to your friends, you may have discovered that you’re not alone either. Other women have complained about similar problems.
The good news is that ALL feeling emotions. But some internalize them very well. And when they do, they seem to be unavailable.
Now I have a very big vision to give you, but I will keep it for later 5 signs that your husband will not commit …
You have an emotionally unavailable boy – Sign no. 1: It’s like a Terminator …
There are some guys who look more like a robot than a human being. They are so hard to read!
If you find yourself constantly wondering “what are you thinking?” – and maybe even asking him the same question … maybe you have an emotionally closed man.
Look, this guy is stoic and reserved, but there are some advantages to being with a guy like this.
For one, it will be solid as a rock in a crisis. He will not lose his mind over the emotional details, and his head will be straight. He will be able to be clear and calm in the chaos of the storm.
How to work:
First, find out if this is your normal way of managing your life. Some boys respond to certain situations by diminishing their own enthusiasm. It is a coping strategy.
But if this has always been the case (which you can confirm by gently asking your mom or a friend), what you see is what you get. He may be the type of man who doesn’t have many emotional ups and downs.
The next time something happens that should provoke an emotional response, comment on the situation and then ask, “So what’s going on inside you now?”
If you still have nothing to offer, resign yourself to it so is he.
Many people turn this kind of situation into one guilt festival because they feel that the other person is wrong to be like that.
Don’t make him feel broken or wrong about it, just keep on going.
Avoiding connection – Sign no. 2: It’s a monkey ME …
Monkeys are selfish people. They seem to think only of themselves.
- For example, he never asks you how your day went …
- Maybe you’re showing all the signs of being sad or hurt, but he doesn’t notice or seem to care …
- Or he doesn’t point to what you told him last week that was so important to you …
In most cases, this behavior is just one defensive stance to avoid vulnerability ia avoid getting hurt.
Keep in mind that some men keep their emotions under control because this gives them great power in the relationship. If you are trying to get rid of his emotional state, it is you who is showing your attachment.
Which means you can find some comfort in your closed behavior.
BUT – You must have some emo in there, girl …
You should probably try this out by throwing away some details of your day, though don’t ask.
If he doesn’t ask you more about this, you might want to drop this guy.
But if it can inspire you to get more interest, maybe ask for a little more, then you have it hope to move on.
Not very emotional – Sign no. 3: It’s a little cool …
One of the best ways to spot an emotionally disconnected guy is to look at how he treats you and how others treat you.
In fact, one of the best signs is: How do you treat people you shouldn’t treat well?
Like the waiters? waitresses?
Have you ever had a date where the guy was unnecessarily to mean on your server?
And that’s how you see one of these guys a mile away. Just look at how others treat you.
- Is it bad for the homeless?
- Do you make fun of people unnecessarily?
- In general, is it malignant?
Take this sign very seriously, because it will directly affect not only your willingness to commit, but your happiness in your relationship.
You’ll see how it handles the first time you eat together. Just watch it in action and see everything you need.
It’s emotionally closed – Sign # 4: It’s perfect …
I don’t mean to say it’s actually “perfect,” but it’s probably never guilt for anything.
In other words, It is NEVER his fault.
He will be one of those guys who can’t be blamed for anything he does. Unable to accept responsibility or guilt …
The easy way to prove it is to ask him about previous relationships, in a gentle and curious way. What does he say about his ex? He never talks about it SEVA contribution to the disappearance of the relationship?
It was ALL she?
This is one huge red flag right there.
Ask yourself, is this really likely? ALL their past ruptures were SHE fault?
Emotionally stable and confident men can talk about past relationships in an objective way, revealing what (and who) contributed to the problems. And it usually is BOTH OF US partners.
Before you ask her about her past relationships, though, make sure you’re okay with hearing about them. Some women become very restless and insecure talking about exes. Make sure you are no one of them before opening this wasp’s nest …
It’s not emotionally open to you – Sign no. 5: Disconnecting …
Guys who are emotionally closed or unavailable have strategies to avoid intimacy in their relationships.
Its avoidance strategy is moving away and disconnecting when things get too close for your convenience.
There is a yours in different ways boys do it:
- Keeping secrets for you …
- Working more hours …
- Avoiding your calls / texts …
- Substance abuse …
- Closing conversations …
The pattern is pretty common: you met and things got hot and heavy while he was crazy about you. Then he began to back away.
The further back you close this distance and regain the connection, the farther away you go.
You feel rejected, and he feels “drowned.”
It’s a win-win situation …
The good news is it’s not your fault!
Now, I have to be clear here … some of these symptoms are no because it’s “commitment phobic.”
These arise because of certain things that men do at certain times in their lives. Or because of his personality type that you didn’t recognize …
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