Are you curious to flirt with a guy? It works regardless of your age or yours! Flirting is the female energetic way to connect with a new man and capture their attention. Keep reading to find out how it works.
Men don’t think like women. For the most part, men do not wonder why things are the way they are or seek a deeper meaning. A man’s thought process is much more direct than that. They tend to take things a step further.
Flirting is a powerful non-verbal communication
To capture a man’s attention, you can’t be too subtle. You want to rely on body language movements that indicate that you are open to talking to them.
The boldest approach is to keep a man’s gaze, while smiling, for 3-5 seconds (at most!) Before turning gracefully. Then come back a few minutes later to see if it catches your eye again. That’s how flirting with a guy and after that second look, he’s likely to get close.
This is a good non-verbal way to let a man know that you are interested. And it’s called FIRTING!
More than 90% of the attraction is non-verbal
That’s why flirting is so powerful! You are sending non-verbal cues using body language to communicate that you are friendly, open, pleasant, welcoming, and willing to talk to men.
The goal of flirting is to help men overcome social barriers to get to know you. In other words, you are reducing the risk of rejection by telegraphing friendly behavior.
You may not realize this, but most men prefer to avoid rejection. That’s why they may not take the opportunity to approach you. But if you use these non-verbal cues, they will pick them up instinctively and be more willing to take that social risk.
Flirting is instinctive
The use of your feminine charm will attract men to you. Once you get started, flirting with a guy is easy and natural. Taking advantage of your charm attracts men magnetically. Flirting is the mechanism that lets a man know that you are open to him.
This is instinctive and encoded in your DNA and yours. Men know the signs of a woman flirting and open up to her approach without thinking twice.
Many of my loving coaching clients, especially those over 40, feel confused about flirting and why they should try it. So let me make it clear what does NOT include:
- Be aggressive
- Asking men out
- Asking a guy for his phone number
- Giving him your number
- Be suggestive
- Chasing a man anyway
Your feminine energy is INVITING. Express your interest by looking at a boy and then looking the other way. And a few minutes later, looking back. This is obvious enough, but it is NOT AGGRESSIVE.
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If you act aggressively, you will take control of the search, which is advisable for so many reasons, but the most important is this:
Men want to chase you
A man wants to talk to you and chase you to be HIS idea. If you are really interested, you will succeed invested in trying to win you over. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT AND HOW YOU CAN MEASURE YOUR INTEREST LEVEL. Do you make an effort?
Three examples of when a guy you just met doesn’t like you enough to see you again:
1) If you smile at the man and he comes to talk, but he doesn’t ask for your number, he’s not interested enough.
2) If he talks to you for an hour and laughs a lot with you, but doesn’t get your number, he doesn’t care enough.
3) If you seemed to be clicking and had a hot chemistry, but didn’t receive your number or ask for it, you’re not interested enough.
Interested men will chase you. He did not receive your number (or call) NO because he is shy or hurt. When a man is really interested in you, he knows what to do and will do it.
How to assess a man’s interest
When you learn to flirt with a guy, you’ll want to know how to evaluate his interest. On the one hand, a man takes you more seriously when he asks you for your number and calls in three days. Not just text messages, but calls and conversations with you.
He also wants to see you and schedule an appointment with a place and time. This is a real quote unlike “We’re meeting this weekend. I’ll call you.” This is a vague man to leave his options open.
A more serious guy will want to see you at least once a week, if not more. And he’ll keep in touch with at least one weekly call, not just a text message like, “Good morning darling, have a nice day.” This is not a sign of anything worthwhile.
Another sign of a boy’s genuine interest is when he tries to please you. For example, he takes you to an Italian restaurant because he asks you what kind of food you like.
When you don’t see any of these positive signs, you’re planning on dating a man who, unfortunately, doesn’t take you seriously.
How to flirt with a guy
Okay, let’s flirt again. Here are a variety of super simple and easy moves you can make to show a guy that you are open to him. They may feel silly at first if you’re out of practice, but that doesn’t mean they don’t work!
- Eye contact and smile
- Rotate or fix hair
- Playing with your jewelry
- Smoothing your clothes
- Using a straw to drink your drink
- Cross and uncross legs (but reluctantly, please)
Once you talk to him, these moves still work. In addition, here are two more that will deepen your connection:
- Lean toward him when he speaks to show your interest
- Lightly touch your forearm or shoulder as you make your point, then release
Flirting sends a clear message
All of these tips send a clear signal to a man. But don’t save all that flirting just for the right man. When you flirt with men regularly, it will be more natural and your skills will improve! You never know who might notice you, so don’t stop.
Try flirting today and start letting men know you’re accessible and available. There is nothing more valuable in enhancing your romantic opportunities than relying on your feminine charm to connect with men.
And that’s like flirting with a guy!
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