Is he moving too fast? Can you control the pace of a relationship?
You’ve known this guy for fourteen days. He texts every day, makes future dates and even talks about a trip to Italy. You’ve already met his kids and you’re concerned that it’s a bit too early for him to meet yours.
You like him. You think. But he’s moving too fast in your opinion.
What do you do?
Here’s what most women do and why their new relationship subsequently fails. They allow a man to dictate the pace of the relationship.
Unfortunately, men’s mouths get ahead of their intentions.
I’m guilty of this myself. I think I really like a woman, so I go all in. Then, I suddenly realized that I’m headed for a serious relationship with someone I hardly know. Deep down, I know I’ve been selling her my best self and she’s never seen the not-so-great side of me.
Men panic and flake because it’s easier than backing out of the Italy trip. It happens all the time.
It’s not your fault. Your only mistake is letting him determine the pace of a relationship because you like him and you’re happy to be dating a descent guy.
The person who controls the pace of the relationship becomes the attracter. If you slow him down, he’ll be more into you because you hold power. You become a challenge and, as you know, men are competitors who strive to earn your love.
Controlling the pace of a relationship benefits you exponentially. It also becomes a test for him. If you slow things down and he gets angry at you, you just saved yourself months, maybe years, of dating a potential head case!
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