What questions for a first date will tell you what you want to know about a new man you just met? Or is there a better approach?
What is your strategy for deciding if a guy meets your criteria?
Ask difficult questions on a first date? What questions should you ask for your first date? Maybe you gave them to a new guy during that first phone call?
There are several reasons why this is NOT the best way to meet a new man or determine if it could be a true love prospect.
Women ask me all the time what kind of questions I should ask on a first date and what they can do to qualify a guy quickly. No one wants to waste time. This is understandable.
The problem is, at the same time, it’s also summing you up. He’s trying to figure out if you’re a nice person, if you’re fun to spend time with, or if you’re likely to die.
Given that he judges you while you judge him, you have to take a different approach from the typical direct question technique. I encourage you to stop focusing on what questions you should prepare for a first date.
So what can you do?
Why do women work so hard?
For the past 20 years as a love and dating coach, I’ve noticed that women often go to great lengths to figure out who a man is and if he could be “The Only One” from the moment they connect.
While it’s great to stay focused and know exactly what you’re looking for, there are no perfect questions to get the answers you really need.
Plus, you don’t have to go overboard to please a new guy. That doesn’t work either.
Instead, let me make this process a lot easier for you. Just try to have fun and be yourself.
Difficult questions kill your attractiveness
Going on a research mission to find out why she got divorced, what her ex is like and if she is looking for a new wife will not create a casual and cheerful fun atmosphere.
Instead of making a big impression on her, you risk looking like an intense woman who can’t relax or have a good time. That alone could easily disqualify you from a man’s perspective. Wow!
Will a man answer your direct questions honestly?
Think about it. Why should a man answer these punctual and invasive questions?
If the boy is a narcissist and his wife left him, will he admit it? If you cheated on your ex, will he admit it? No!
As a guy answers your research questions he will NEVER tell you what you want to know because he can lie. It could also be evasive, change the subject, or just laugh.
Don’t eat your ex
Suppose you are out with a quality guy. A very good man who could have real potential as a future partner. It’s an exciting opportunity that you don’t want to spoil!
Then you talk about your ex and it’s almost like he’s having a date with you now. And his mood is shot in hell. Do not do it!
So if it’s not about pushing him to answer the perfect questions for a first date, how do you know if he’s the right man?
Get more tips for your first date.
Look at what he does, not what he says
A man’s actions tell you EVERYTHING you need to know about his potential as a romantic partner.
To see if a new guy could match, make a list of the qualities you want, such as fun, considerate, smart, familiar, social, and so on.
Below is a brief list of your deal breakers such as addictions, rude, cheap, thoughtless, unreliable, and so on.
Then go out and relax!
Now your job on a first date is to see if the conversation is flowing and how you feel in their company. Do you have a sense of humor and even have one?
Forget all these questions for a first date.
Observe their behavior. Is it on time, is he a good propitiator, friendly with the waiters and well cared for? Make sure he shows who he is, instead of telling you.
Most importantly, see if he calls to ask you again.
The easy and fun way to meet a new man
When you stop trying to qualify a guy on a first date, you can sit back, relax, and be yourself. That way you will shine and be your most attractive!
This is MUCH EASIER, right? And a lot more fun.
You can relax, enjoy, meet new guys and see what happens. Stop trying so hard and let these men get away with it.
A man will qualify if you let him. Then you can stop working so hard to get out and have fun.
This is my best dating advice that has worked for me and many of my happy clients!
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