Being single this summer can be difficult at times. Maybe you’ve just ended a relationship with someone and this is your first solo summer? Maybe you’re not wearing those chiseled abs and biceps or the six-pack you used to fantasize about? Or maybe your life is not where you would like it to be, unfulfilled goals and hesitant motivation make you fall. With all the joke that the summer season provokes, these things can contribute to the “blah” feelings that the “Single Summertime Blues” mean. Those affected by this condition may even feel depressed at times, harboring a lot of negativity and defeat. The common reasons why people often suffer from “summer blues” are:
- Body image insecurities Common Austin summer activities such as boating, pool parties, outdoor sports, and less clothing can be stressful due to physical insecurities. This bodily shame not only leads to a decrease in self-esteem, but can also lead to an increase in loneliness and isolation.
- Heat intolerance – People may find that the high summer temperatures in Austin are oppressive. It can make you feel more irritable and agitated as a result of being uncomfortable. Some individuals feel more affected by heat than others. This can cause people to stay indoors, which can also lead to an increase in the feeling of isolation.
- Alteration of routine – Maybe the kids are home from school or you are on summer vacation yourself. Deviations from routines can negatively affect mental and physical health.
- Changes in sleep schedule – Longer days and shorter nights in Austin cause intermittent sleep for many people. For those who are able to sleep, they may feel more moody, dazed, or “holes.” For others, increasing their exposure to light means going around or not sleeping.
Remember that song “Ain’t No Cure For the Summertime Blues”? No doubt you may feel that way sometimes being single in the summer. While fall and winter are all about having someone to hug (or several people with, whatever your boat leaves), summer in Austin is the time to let go, meet new people, and do what it does you happy. Everyone is different, and whether being single or in a relationship makes you happy, it is entirely up to you. But if you’re single and surrounded by healthy couples and people with healthy and happy relationships, it can be hard to remember that being single this summer can be great.
5 Tips for Becoming a Successful Summer Bachelor
- It nourishes your mind, body, soul and confidence. We all need to take care of ourselves, but especially when you are affected by the “blues”, it is even more important to dedicate yourself to self-warming and promote your own personal growth. Learn something new. Take a class. Visit a bookstore. Get a personal trainer and exercise. Eat nutritious. Meditate and practice relaxation techniques. Keep a diary. Pursuing a hobby. Get lost in the music.
- Plan your love and your future in advance.
For optimal success, when you’re single in the summer in Austin, it’s important to develop a vision (a plan or a vivid picture of what you want) for your future, for a life partner, and for a relationship. This will give you a way to measure where you are going and how you are going along the way. It is important to identify your values, the things that would be most important to you in all of these areas, as this will define your mission. Then you can make conscious decisions to make sure that you are living with integrity, a key component to living a healthy self-esteem.
- Be available and ready for Mr. or Mrs. Right!
This means making the most of being single by taking advantage of this time to resolve any outstanding issues of the past to close it, mourn the necessary losses, build confidence and a positive self-concept, and defeat negative thinking with more affirmative and optimistic mindsets. Embrace your singleness and stop measuring your self-esteem in your dating status; See it as a valuable time to put things in order so that no luggage is moved when “The One” comes into your life.
- 4. Develop a dating action plan and a skill toolbox.
Make a list of your non-negotiable needs for a partner and a relationship. What things do you need to have that you can’t have in order to have a relationship with someone? This becomes your guide to examining dating prospects for possible compatibility. It will help you save a lot of time and frustration along the way. Also, start building your repertoire of skills in flirting, setting boundaries, projection, and more. to increase your sophistication and confidence.
- Get out of your head!
When you have the “blues”, there is a tendency to absorb yourself with your negative thoughts. Get out of your head and channel that energy into something more productive. Nothing works better than helping others. Volunteer for a worthy cause. Live your life to the fullest and do something that gives you more meaning and passion. And take stock of all the strengths and positives you have. You are a good person! Share the gifts you have and you will receive the double benefit of being single in the summer!
So here you have it! This is just a starting point for the care of the “summer blues”. The important thing is to start seeing your status alone as an opportunity. Your life is what you make of it, as the old saying goes, and you have the power within you to make this the best summer of your life if you choose. You can turn “summer blues” into “summer bliss!” This is yours time. Who knows when you’ll be single again? Take advantage of it and make the most of your summer.
And if you are ready for the real thing, not just for a summer adventure, we offer free consultations! Click here to start the journey to find your person forever. We’ve helped hundreds of Austin singles find love in our amazing city! Why delay happiness when you can have something else?
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