What happens if you stop texting and see what happens? Don’t text! This is a great strategy to find out if a man is really interested or just likes to text.
Are you really interested?
I bet this happened to you. Meet a guy online and ask for your number or you’re in the dating app and start texting.
Sending text messages is fun! Sometimes it’s fast and furious and other times it’s just morning and night.
Over time, you feel a connection and wonder when you will meet. Anticipation is created. You may suggest meeting for coffee and you agree.
Yes! Somehow, though, things never come together and he doesn’t set a time or a place. Text messages continue.
What is this all about and why won’t he find time to see you?
A date followed by a text message
Sometimes a guy texts you often and then asks you out. You have an amazing date and you can say that you like it as much as you do. Great! The problem is that the text message part is still on, but it doesn’t ask you to log out again. or set a date and cancel.
Why did he lose interest so quickly?
Turn text messages on and off
Another scenario is that you send text messages to him sporadically. There are times when you have whole conversations, then you know it’s getting dark and you wonder where it’s gone.
Is it okay to see someone else or are they just busy at work?
Send him a text message to see what happens and say something nice the first time. It bounces and the texts start again, then it slows down or stops.
Re-send messages to ask if everything is OK? This behavior is so confusing and frustrating. You haven’t met this guy yet and this is coming to you.
So when things slow down, you feel like you have to do everything you can to keep it moving to keep that connection with you.
The problem is that you have already invested so much time and now you really like it.
What is Ghosting?
If you’re wondering what a ghost is, the definition is when a man stops asking you out and no longer keeps in touch, even texting. He seems to have left the planet, leaving you wondering what the hell happened.
So what is the ghost in text messages and how is it different? Most of the time it is when a man has been in frequent contact by text messages, saying good morning or wishing you a good night’s sleep. Maybe some other little text stuff during the day as well.
Or you can deepen your conversation, share a laugh or something about your day. The thing is, it stops approaching and basically goes completely silent, leaving you confused by your phone as if it doesn’t work well in some way. At least that’s your hope.
Find out why he stopped calling
Want to send text messages and find out what’s going on?
Like it or not? It seems like such a simple thing; So why do men make dating so difficult?
I know this is what asks you to contact him and send a message again. You think, “Hey, I’ll just text you and ask you what’s going on? Adult honesty should be the best way to go.”
So send a text message and say something like, “Are you still interested? If not, okay. I just want to know.” That should be easy for him to answer, he can’t just say, “No, thank you.” Or, “I’m sorry, I’m seeing someone else.”
The problem is men usually do NOT answer direct questions so at the beginning of the appointments.
Most men don’t want to be the bad guy. So they twist, feel uncomfortable and tell white lies. At least that’s what they think they’re doing.
You receive a text message about how busy you are. Maybe apologize and resend text messages. It may surprise you and make an appointment, but cancel at the last minute, disappointing you without believing.
What are you supposed to do? If being direct and asking doesn’t work, then so be it What will work to get your attention back?
Stop texting him and see what happens
Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. Stop texting him and see what happens. This is how you learn what your true intentions are.
A man who is interested but not dating will often be more interested when he stops hearing from you.
If you always send text messages first, STOP. Shut up. See what it does and what steps it takes to reconnect. You want to get a man’s attention: disappear over him. This will make you very curious.
You are interrupting the pattern of your behavior and doing something unexpected. This is what a good man will notice and maybe stop playing this crazy game and want to meet you.
You will stand out from other women who are texting.
Now, don’t go growing your hopes because many times a man texting will never arrive. But every now and then, a good man will be curious about you and decide that he needs to know more.
More tips on why guys delay texting
Many women do not understand this from dating
Look, most women do the same thing as you. They ask for a boy they haven’t heard of, thinking it’s the right way. In fact, many think it’s the only option.
They don’t realize that they should stop sending text messages.
There is an energy in dating. A rhythm of push and pull or back and forth like ballroom dancing. In ballroom dancing, there is a leader and a follower.
As a woman, follow the example of a man if you want to look good on the dance floor. It doesn’t make you any less important than him; it’s just how dance works.
Follow his example
The same thing happens at the beginning of dating.
Follow the example of a man:
- If you send text messages, return a message.
- If it doesn’t send you text messages, DON’T TURN IT IN.
This is your best strategy to not waste time with men who are not really interested. The truth is, there are many men who will waste your time and hook you, BUT ONLY IF YOU LEAVE THEM.
Therefore, when you send text messages because it has been silenced, you are no longer “following”. You’ve taken the lead and that doesn’t work at the beginning of dating for most singles over 40 years old.
It may not work so well for 40-year-olds either because dating is still an archaic mating ritual based on biology, not gender equality.
Most men like to think that going out with you is their idea. To create this situation, you don’t want to be too available and you don’t want to look IMPACTIVE or DESPERATE.
But that’s what happens when you take the lead, keep the text message conversation, and so on.
Don’t text, you have nothing to lose
When you stop texting to see what it does, you have nothing to lose. In fact, you have everything to gain because you will know if you care or not. You will understand their true level of interest.
Don’t be fooled or apologize to the boy. Men know EXACTLY what to do if they want to see you. They ask you to go out, set a date, choose a place, and show up. I they can do all this without your help. Even shy guys know this, so don’t apologize to any man and feel you have to HELP HIM.
The good news is that when you’re not doing your job of taking the lead, you’re not going to invest or get emotionally attached to the wrong man before you know him. Or before you meet him and find out if he is worthy of your time and interest.
Lit leads you to find out what he will do to win you over.
TThe hat is the ONLY WAY you will ever know the interest it really is!
What you will lose are men who are NOT interested. Men who might care less about you or don’t want a relationship. Men who don’t care enough to be consistent in their search or efforts to get to know you.
Now that’s something you can miss, right? Who needs a man who only fills time with you or plays with your heart?
This is how you can free yourself from men who just want to chain you to increase your ego, fill time, or get rid of boredom and erase your precious time.
Your next step
So if you’re “talking” to a man who sends a lot of text messages or just sporadically, but doesn’t ask you out, think twice. Are you putting energy into something worth interacting with? Or expose your heart to a romantic disappointment?
Are you getting something going on by texting this guy who hasn’t met you or asked for a second date in over a week? Unfortunately, no, not really. It’s time to dump her and move on.
Stop texting and see what happens next. If you don’t hear any peeing, now you have valuable information about this guy, it’s not him.
The right man for you WANTS TO MEET YOU and will do whatever it takes to get to know you and spend time with you.
When you’re not texting him, watch his actions for several weeks (like six or eight) to decide if he can have potential.
If you are constantly in touch, call at least once a week and request a weekly appointment (if not more), you may be showing lasting potential. And worthy of your love and attention.
Until you know this about a man, play the bride of the field! Don’t narrow down your options and focus on one man until he’s consistent enough to ask you to be exclusive.
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