Listen to Someone and You Empower Them
There are some situations that beg us to listen and to respond in affirmation. These are particularly the kinds of circumstances where people with us are vulnerable.Staying Present IN the Awkward Moment – True Story
Have you ever been to one of those eatery birthday parties? The ones where they offer free beverages and eats, there’s live music, etc. I went to one recently. It was great. I arrived there with a sense of expectancy.Bereavement – What to Say?
Sudden bereavement creates a sense of numbness and shock. Later followed by intense negative feelings. We may feel uncomfortable not knowing what to say to a friend going through bereavement. Here are 6 tips that might find useful.He Wanted To Kill Himself After His Partner Left Him
A little while ago I spoke to someone whose son had gone through a break up, and this was something that had a big impact on him. She didn’t say how long he had been with her for, but she did go into what he went though.Wait and Let God Avenge For You Like Only God Can
Forgiveness is the directive of the Lord, even as we receive the Lord’s forgiveness. But there is a reckoning to be had for all unrepentant perpetrators. As all deserve mercy if one receives mercy, such mercy is only available to those who do justice.When Experience Gets in the Way of Empathy
The conversation went a little like this: ‘Others (i.e. you) don’t really know what this is about’ to which I said, ‘Yes, but I’ve been through the same sort of season in the past.’ There was tacit agreement. The person had to agree. They knew my story, and they knew I understood. But their point was, ‘But you’re not there now.’Those Precious Moments Missed Are Lost
Having made the choice to attend a work function and miss spending time with my five-year-old son it was easy to reconcile the matter – there are plenty of those times. Trouble is, there are not plenty of those times. He is already five years old. In a reflective moment we’re given to the sadness that he is no longer two or three, or even a baby.We Are Here for You
It wouldn’t be an unusual scenario in any of our lives to have a loved one or dear friend who needs to know, ‘we are here for you.’ There are people all over the planet who feel that way right now.Okay, So How Am I to Challenge Someone Who Hates Being Criticised?
For someone who hates being criticised, God had a sense of humour when a while back someone asked me as pastor the above question. I’ve had to learn a lot about accepting criticism over the years, especially the last several. Just when I’ve thought ‘I’m good at this’ God has brought a new lesson front-and-centre to show me just how insecure I can be. No matter how unfair criticism is, I’ve had to learn there’s always some truth in there to be gleaned. So, with that background I’m taking the role of suggesting ways to approach someone like me.Instant Healing Of Your Ego Wounded Self? It Doesn’t Exist
Do you think you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Do you get discouraged when dealing with the same issues over and over? You’re not alone!Loving People Well With Boundaries
I wasn’t in paid ministry very long – first day, in fact – before my then senior pastor gave me a salient lesson on boundaries. It would be a lesson I was destined to learn the hard way.Opinion Is a Privilege, Not a Right
One week teaches us much if we care to reflect and observe. God had this sort of conversation with me recently: “Watch and learn about how your opinion polarises or changes – see how fickle it is – watch and learn about others’ opinions – watch and learn, thirdly, about the ruin opinion brings.”