Why did he lose interest so quickly? This is a common and painful question that women ask when they go out and seek love. Here are some answers to help you understand men.
How did you lose interest after the first date?
“Hello, dating coach, Ronnie!
I met a guy online through a dating app. We got it right immediately and before we met, he was making plans with me to go out and do things. Video chat, we talk on the phone and we send each other constantly. We had our first date a week ago (Thursday) which I think went pretty well.
Like I said, we had so many plans and during our date he was constantly talking to us. It’s been a week since our date and he’s been contacting me almost daily, but it doesn’t look at all like it used to.
We don’t talk on the phone anymore and we almost never text. When we do, it will stop responding after a while.
I haven’t really started contacting him, maybe once or twice, but just to say hello. I just wonder if you think he’s lost interest in me because he doesn’t talk to me as much as he used to.
What is your opinion? I’m trying not to worry, but I really enjoyed the time with him and was looking forward to the plans we had made.
Why do boys lose interest after persecution?
Dating can be confusing and disappointing. That’s why I help my clients spot the signs of a man who is likely to waste your time. Learning about the red flags will keep you from putting your hopes on the wrong guys and will allow you to find the right man for you.
There are many possible answers to your question: “Why did you lose interest so quickly?” I have provided 7 reasons below, but please do not be put off by any of them. I will explain why in the next section.
Your own reasons for a date
- I wasn’t looking for more than one date
- He had a good time, but he wants to see who else is out
- He’s just playing on the field
- She wants female attention, but she doesn’t want a relationship
- I needed an ego boost
- He doesn’t know what he wants
- I was bored and wanted to do something fun
Men and women have many reasons to meet new people and have a date. It often has nothing to do with getting into a serious relationship.
Some singles have many first dates because they are looking for a certain type of person. Or they just want an ego boost to build trust.
Sometimes people are not ready for anything serious, but they enjoy meeting new people. Understand the idea: it’s not always about finding “The One” or lasting love.
Reasons why he lost interest in you
- You reminded him of a lover of the past, so he moved on
- He didn’t find you so attractive in person
- You’re just not the woman you’re looking for
- He didn’t have as much fun as you
- You warned one of their red flags
As a single woman, you know that not all men will like it, just as not all men will work for you. Yes, you’re looking for someone special, which automatically means most people won’t match. That’s part of the dating and it’s to be expected.
So even though it seemed like you both had a good time, maybe he was looking for something else. The truth is that anyone can have a good time, but they still don’t want a second date.
Try not to take it personally when you are rejected after a single date. I’ve listed 12 possible reasons why you may have lost interest, but you can imagine how many more there are.
When you ask, “Why did you lose interest so quickly?” what you really want to rethink is how interested you were in the first place. And this might be a good time to ask yourself if you’re learning to have a relationship. Even if you are excited about a new man, your best attitude until it is proven over time is, “We’ll see.”
Read more about how to rush into relationships here.
Sending text messages and talking are not signs of interest
That’s why I recommend that you do not communicate long before the meeting. Because many singles confuse texting or talking on the phone as a genuine interest. But maybe I had nothing better to do. Either you enjoyed texting or talking. Unfortunately, this does not mean that you want a relationship, even if you say yes.
I tell customers to avoid long calls, constant text messages, and video chats before they meet. Because? Because that makes you think something really good is going on.
Find out why you should stop sending text messages.
Women give meaning to the whole conversation and assume that the man must like it a lot. This is especially true if a boy opens up and shares things about his life. Unfortunately, it doesn’t really mean anything.
Talking to you increases your ego
Some men like to talk about themselves. They like to flirt or feel alone and want feminine attention. All this communication is fabulous for the ego.
After a conversation with you, he probably felt lively and manly. As if he could hit any woman and succeed. It makes a man feel wanted and vital. And for some men who already have a relationship, it’s a great way to interact with multiple women without physically cheating.
My dating advice is to text only a few times a day and never talk on the phone every night.
You are a desirable woman who has places to go and people to see. You don’t want to be left out every night waiting for your call. This provides no mystery or persecution and men like both. They want to feel that they are winning you over.
Once you’re there, wait and see how long it takes you to want more, call and schedule another date. When a week or more goes by, this can be a sign that you’re not really that interested after all.
Since you had a lot of communication, you think he was seriously interested, so you wondered, “Why did he lose interest so quickly?” Being in touch tells me that she is connecting with a group of women to feed her ego.
It is not what a man says, but what he does
Making plans for the future before a man meets you is a classic seduction technique. You’re sure to like a guy who is already planning your future before he meets you, right? It’s a way to make sure you’re interested in him. Future plans only matter when a man asks you constantly over time.
How to manage communication before meeting
The next time you meet a guy, send text messages a few times a day, but don’t respond immediately each time. Have a 20-minute phone conversation, then set a date to meet. Avoid over-communicating and stop texting all the time.
I also recommend going out with other men while you wait to see if the first guy asks for a second or third date or ends up disappearing.
This is how to avoid feeling so disappointed and deflated. Now you know better than to think that a man is seriously interested just because he has listened to you.
After interacting with a few more guys, you’ll improve upon detecting this red flag. The man who loves to text, talk and make plans, but who evaporates after a first date. Or worse, the man who texts and talks for months with no intention of meeting you.
In case you made mistakes on your first date that turned it off, I recommend that you listen to my free audio program 12 First Date Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Love.
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